Monday, June 20, 2016

God is Good, I'm an Idiot, and Other Truths I've Learned on this Journey

Summer is (almost) upon us, and with the sunshine, comes an eagerness, anticipation, and hopefulness that someday soon our lives will be forever changed with a son or daughter. So...drum roll, please...We have officially begun the process of finding our baby! We have submitted our first round of paperwork, which consisted of mostly contracts and confidentiality agreements. We have been so blessed with wonderful friends and a support system throughout this entire process. When we realized that we would need to have our documents notarized, I immediately texted a friend who has already adopted once and is in the process to adopt again. She referred me to her friend who has become a notary public specifically to notarize adoption documents. She notarizes free-of-charge in her home to help couples like us make the process a little easier. This may seem small, but for us, it was amazing. It helped us get the paperwork in sooner and we saved money. God is at work even in the smaller details of adoption! It furthers our understanding that adoption is His will for our lives.
We have also begun our second round of paperwork that includes our Faith statements and references. Since we are using a Christian agency, they have requested that we share with them a little about our Faith journey, background, church involvement, and plans for raising our child. Jeff and I have been individually working on our statements and hope to have them finalized and submitted very soon. We have also found several people who are willing to provide us with character references. Again, we are so blessed with the amount of support around us. From our families to our co-workers, from our church family to friends, everyone has been absolutely wonderful.

I did have an appointment with my doctor a few days ago, and I received a clean bill of health. My medicine has really improved my symptoms and I am feeling great. She did, however, suggest that I see a genetic councilor since there is a history of ovarian cancer in my family. Apparently, the councilor will be able to look at my family history and run some tests to see if I am also a carrier of the gene that causes breast and ovarian cancers. I'm not going to lie, it's a little intimidating. When I got off the phone with my doctor, the fear immediately set in. What if I am a carrier of the gene? How will that affect my life? Is it better not to know than to know and worry? You would think after all I've been through I would know better. You would think I would know to immediately cast all my fears on God and relinquish all my control to Him. I, however, am an idiot. Time and time again I get nervous and worried and scared and I try to combat those fears myself. Idiot. My prayer is that I would immediately, without hesitation or delay, lean on God and realize that I cannot do this on my own.

But God knows me so well. In those moments right after the phone call when I was floundering, He reminded me that he's in control. My phone beeped and right then we received an email from our adoption agency letting us know that our preliminary application had been processed and we can now move on to the formal application! God is indeed in control!

We are also extremely close to reaching our first financial goal. Thank you so much to everyone who has reached out to donate to our adoption fund. Family, friends, friends of friends, and even strangers have given us support. And thank you to everyone who has been and continues to pray for us. It means so much and it truly makes a difference!

Now that we've officially begun the process of adopting and now that I'm just one week away from summer vacation, I will hopefully be able to update the blog more frequently. Thank you for reading and praying and sending your words of encouragement to us. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up." Thank you for being there for us.